Summer Vacation?

As some of you may have noticed, I have continued on my anti-social networking journey, and my twitter account has been deleted, in the same fashion as my facebook account.

Joseph pointed out that it was distracting me too much, and I’d been feeling it as well.

I struggle with this a lot- there is more significant work to be done, yet I get caught up (as many other do as well, I suppose) in these little things that eat away at my time, shiny things that distract me from the bigger picture and the real work of my life.

I’m thinking about giving up my blog as well, but I don’t know about that yet. Sometimes I think that blogs are the new books, and if I really want to impact my society then I will keep blogging and give up trying to write a book. Maybe I can do both, but who knows?

I do know that if I do decide to keep blogging, it’s going to be more specific in nature and not so “this is how my day went”.  Real change does not come through celebrating the mundane, but in inspiring things to be different.

I want to be more proactive in my life, proactive with my goals and proactive in what I really want to see happen in the world.

Anyway, I leave for a week on Saturday, back to the Outer Banks for a week- that is, after I attend my uncle’s funeral in Virginia on Saturday afternoon. So I guess that for the time being, I’m sort of on a vacation/hiatus- my mind needs time to process these feelings that I’ve been having, and decide what’s next.

I guess this is my version of Summer vacation. Don’t go away though- there will be more to come. I promise.

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Inspire.

My cousin sent me this in an email the other day- and it couldn’t have been more perfect. I suppose you can substitute whatever you like for the “God” part of it, to suit whatever you happen to believe in.

I hope it inspires you like it did me.

“Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate.
Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure.
It is our light,
not our darkness
that most frightens us.
We ask ourselves,
Who am I to be
brilliant,
gorgeous,
talented,
fabulous?
Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God.
Your playing small does not serve the world.
There is nothing enlightened about shrinking
so that other people won’t feel insecure around you.
We are all meant to shine, as children do.
We were born to make manifest the glory of God
that is within us.
It’s not just in some of us;
it’s in everyone.
And as we let our own light shine,
we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same.
As we are liberated from our own fear,
our presence
automatically
liberates
others.”
-Marianne Williamson

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Dinner: Tonkatsu

I made a lovely dinner last night- I was going to bento the leftovers- only there weren’t any. After spending two hours playing football (or soccer), we were sweaty, sore all over, and HUNGRY. Well, actually I wasn’t all that hungry, but Joseph was. So.

Tonkatsu is a Japanese dish- well really, it’s a Japanese-ish dish. Sort of Japanese food that has been dumbed down for American taste buds. You really think I’m kidding, or maybe you think I’m being rude, but really it’s neither. It’s just the truth.

As far as I can tell, Ton means pork, and katsu means cutlet, or maybe it’s a word to indicate breading of some sort. I think, anyway, because there’s also Chicken Katsu, which is something I had at Mitsuwa in Edgewater.

So I bought some boneless pork chops, and pounded them to about a half inch thick. The chicken breasts were only hammered out at the necessary parts to make them even.

Then I dredged them in flour, seasoned with salt and pepper. I was watching a chef show once, and they said that you need to season every layer, and any cook should know that. I made a mental note, and whenever I am layering flavors, I keep that in mind. But I digress.

Then I dipped it in egg, then coated it in Panko, which are the Japanese equivalent of bread crumbs. Only they aren’t bread crumbs, they are light and airy and get really crispy. Everything you ever wanted bread crumbs to be but they weren’t. When I put it in the panko dish, I press down on them- several times, flipping it over. I really want the panko to be really in there. Then I lift, shake gently, and repeat the process until the meat is finished.

To give you an idea of measurements- I had four chicken breasts and three pork chops. I used about two cups of flour (had leftovers that I threw out), used three eggs, and about half a bag of panko- maybe around 2-3 cups of it. I buy the big bags, since it’s a staple around here.

Then they get about 3-5 minutes on each side in a pan with oil (vegetable or peanut oil) that has been heated really hot then turned down to a medium-high heat. They’ll turn this lovely golden brown. Don’t worry about the meat not being cooked all the way through- in fact, you even want it to still be a tiny bit pink, since the meat will continue cooking even after you take it off the heat.

The sauce is what makes this to DIE for. The approximate measurements, and ingredients, are as follows:

1 cup ketchup (I said EW to this at first- I even had to go buy it because I don’t keep it in the house. But, it really works here. Trust.)
1/2 cup worchestershire sauce
1/2-3/4 cup mirin (rice wine)
1/4 cup sugar
1/4 cup dijon mustard (I keep a big jar of grey pupon around, it’s great for dressings and last minute things like that)
two cloves of garlic, pressed
1 inch of fresh ginger, peeled and pressed (I used the garlic press. Note that it will sort of “juice” the ginger instead of mincing it like it does to the garlic)

Whisk this all together, and put it on the stove over medium heat. I do this part FIRST, before I do the meat. That way it can simmer and bubble over low heat on the back of the stove, putting all these amazing smells into the air and getting everyone excited for dinner.

Then I shred some cabbage- there are several different ways to do this. For some reason, Williams Sonoma hasn’t sent me a mandolin just yet, so I get out my trusty five star chef knife and slice it on up. Side note: I only know how to do this properly because my mother used to make me slice the lettuce for tacos so thinly! Although, if I remember correctly, I never got it thin enough to satisfy her. However, I did okay with the cabbage this time.

Once you have it sliced, put it in a large bowl and cover it with ice water, for up to an hour. Just make sure you remember to drain it about five minutes before you put the sauce on it or serve it- I let it sit in the colander and give it time to REALLY drain the water off.

The sauce for the cabbage really depends on YOU, and what kind of flavors you like to have. However, here’s how I made mine:
2 spoonfuls (like serving spoon) of miracle whip. I hate mayo. So I don’t use it. But you could use it for this recipe if you wanted. I think it looked like it was almost a cup.
1/2 a cup, ish, of sour cream. Creme fraiche would have actually been preferable here, because you want a more runny consistency and that has it.
more fresh ginger, pressed. about an inch of fresh, peeled ginger.
more fresh garlic, pressed. 3 cloves, but I love garlic. So you could also use less.
1/4-1/2 cup of mirin
lots of lemon juice! It will give it this GREAT tang, and thin out the other ingredients until it’s the consistency you want.

If you have picky eaters, put the sauce in a small dish on the side. I love to toss it all together- kind of like an American Cole Slaw, but only in the idea because this is so much better than any slaw you’ve ever tasted here.

Also this is probably not the normal sauce that goes with this cabbage- I made it up.

Arrange it all on a plate to look pretty- I use folded slices of pickled radish and a lemon wedge to dress it up. I’d show you, but Joseph ate ALL of it, and faster than I could take a photo. So next time.

I forgive him for this for two reasons.

First, because he liked my food so much that I couldn’t even get a photo taken before he just devoured it.
Second, because he made me a rose out of a paper towel (he found the instructions online) and gave it to me to thank me for making him such an amazing dinner. I totally melted. Then kissed him. Then…ok, ok, I’ll stop there.

Also he told me that I’m the love of his life. So…yeah.

Anyway, I hope you get a chance to try (and love!) this recipe!! To borrow the phrase… Bon Appetit!

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Some days, you just have to create.

I’ve been in a necklace making mood lately. Specifically, a vampire themed necklace making mood. I’ve been keeping my hands busy while catching up on episodes of True Blood, although sometimes the air is too steamy and I have to just sit there and drool.

Yes, I am admitting it- True Blood is my guilty pleasure. My guilty, filthy, super sexy pleasure that is the only reason I currently have HBO.

I started making necklaces in high school, mostly because it was my sole form of artistic expression. Beads were inexpensive back then, and my mother let me go nuts. I rarely got to keep my babysitting money, but sometimes I did, and that’s what it went towards.

I used to have quite an impressive collection, but then I joined the military and grew out of it, so to speak, for a while. Lately, though, I’ve been seeing designs in the stores and thinking, “I could totally make that.” So I did! My lovely e-friend Kim sent me some beading stuff that she wasn’t using, and a visit to the local bead shop got me going again.

Here’s the few I’ve made so far:

1. For when I’m in the “classy vamp” mood. I’m not sure that “classy” and “vamp” can be used together, but then again I never do things normally anyway. So when I want to wear pearls but have that little bit of naughty feeling- this one is perfect!

2. My naughty vamp mood: hematite with the red blood beads in just the right spot. I’ve got it, and I’m flaunting it.

3. My queen vamp necklace: Blood red all around, with sparkles in just the right places.

4. This one isn’t vampy at all, but I made a double strand on a purple theme, with the stones off to the side instead of centered. I really love this necklace, and it looks great with a scoop neck!

Aren’t they fun? I think so, at least. I have a few more in the works, one with a combination of chains and beads, which will be fantastic when it’s finished. ^_^

What inspires you to create?

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Bento: Yumminess.

I know. Yumminess isn’t a word, and I’m being all Sarah Palin-like by making up one.

However, yumminess is a word that should exist, and especially in conjunction with this bento!

I am completely in love with this multi-grain organic rice. It’s a little pricey, but I just adore it. It’s got this almost nutty consistency and I just love it. Organic brown, sweet brown, and black rice, with a happy little quail egg (nori detail) on top. Then, some vinegared bean sprouts with flower detail (for color!) and three beef and veggie gyoza.

Yummy, yummy, yummy!

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Science > Rant

I was going to rant today.Well, okay maybe I still will, but just a little bit. It’s completely warranted.

My favorite chocolate in the whole world, Cadbury, was bought out in a fierce battle earlier this year, bought out by Kraft. Which, can I just say, ew?! Kraft is synonymous with cheap and easy, gross powdered mixes to pass for “food” and dressings to slather it all in. And we wonder why Americans are fat. Blech.

Anyway, they bought Cadburys, which is tragic because Cadburys is heaven. I just knew they were going to fuck it up somehow, but hoped that they would just leave well enough alone. But they didn’t. They couldn’t. And now, this: They’re changing the recipe. To save money, they’re substituting some powdered shit for the real thing.

I’m completely livid. I’m boycotting all Kraft products starting NOW, and encouraging others to do the same. I’m also writing letters to the company and letting them know WHY I am doing this.

You might think I’m mental- especially since it’s not easy to get Cadbury products here in the United States, only the creme eggs at Easter. Occasionally, the odd Walgreens will have some of the chocolate bars. But they’re not the same as the ones you can get from Great Britain- the Twirls, the Flakes, the Double Deckers…oh dear lord. You’ve never tasted chocolate this smooth, this delicate, or this amazing. And don’t even get me started on the creme eggs, the ones that are stocked up on every Easter but don’t make it past May.

So that was going to be my rant, my new cause, the theme of my future tweets.

However, something that no one really paid attention to in the media has just happened.

The FDA has approved the use of human embryonic stem cells in clinical trials.

Just in case you didn’t get that the first time around, I’ll say it again.

The FDA has approved the use of human embryonic stem cells in clinical trials. Go ahead. Go take some time and read the article and be totally blown away.

This is a huge fucking deal. This means that they could figure out how to help paralyzed people walk again. This means we can figure out how to get our bodies to HEAL THEMSELVES.

This is despite the Republican party blocking this for a long time. Under the Bush administration, they made it fucking illegal- even writing into law that you can be ARRESTED for having any sort of stem cell therapy, even if it took place in a different country. Now can I just point out, how would they know unless they took your DNA?

Just think on that a while. Cafones.

Anyway. I’m excited about this, more excited than I have been about anything in a while. This is significantly huge, and I can’t wait to see what comes from it. It’s also very relevant to the research that Joseph is doing, and he’s also excited to see advancements in this area of medicine and technology.

I’ve always thought that religion and science don’t have to be at odds- and most scientists will agree with that as well- the hard part is getting religious people to agree with it as well. They seem to see it as some sort of war- a war in which someone is right, and someone is wrong, and since “God” is on their side, they cannot possibly be wrong, so science must be. Although I have to say that I’ve never met a serious scientist that was also devoutly religious. That might be another exploration for another time, though.

Anyway. The possibilities. This is a fantastic step forward, and it’s been a long time since this country took a step forward instead of two backward.

By the way- It’s Tuesday! Visit the Un Mom and participate in Random Thought Tuesday!

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Now THIS is amazing.

You know how just the other day I was saying that all the shit I do is normal, and shouldn’t be amazing? I have evidence to support my claim.

So my boyfriend has a rather impressive family.

I have presidents in my family tree (the Harrisons) but other than that, we haven’t done anything all that impressive.

Joseph got an email on Monday Evening- his cousin is going to swim the English fucking channel, at 3 AM on our Tuesday morning. Which, is really 11pm Monday night.

Um, can I just say that this girl is a complete and total badass???

Support her!! More women like her in the world should be supported.

Here’s her website: http://aliswimsthechannel.com

Go Ali!!!

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Photos and a Plane

I put Dylan on an airplane this morning. With his dad, but still. Dylan’s paternal grandfather had a stroke, and because they delayed getting him to the hospital, he’s not expected to ever recover- and in the last 24 hours he’s gotten worse.

So I got a call this morning at 8 am, would I please drive them both to the airport, and help get Dylan packed? Of course I said yes- no matter how I feel about Dylan’s father, there’s a sensibility and compassion to be helpful when things like this are happening.

I also got a chance to have Dylan over for about an hour before we drove to the airport, so of course my camera came out…it’s going to be three weeks before I see Dylan again. A very long three weeks. Joseph and I spent some time with him, and I managed to capture some moments- cheesy grins and all. Dylan insisted that I take some photos of him and his “best friend”, Pablo (from the Backyardigans, a preschooler’s show for those of you w/o kiddos).


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Some Nights…

I suppose the feeling I have when Dylan goes home is similar to the feeling that other mothers get when their children fall asleep for the night- relief. Mine is mixed with a bit of sadness that I am not the one tucking him in, not the one who knows exactly what his current sleepy-time routine includes. I’m not the one getting him to brush his teeth every night, nor am I the one doing the funny voices for his bedtime story.

In short, it sucks.

There’s always a bit of sadness mixed with relief when he goes back to his father’s house. Relief because when you spend most of your day in an academic and/or adult mindset, extended time with a four year old is completely and utterly dizzying.

I want to figure out where he gets his energy, so I can bottle it up and SELL it. I’d be rich, seriously. All of the adults in the world are looking for the next energy fix, the next boost, the next way to squeeze just one more activity into an already over-packed schedule. The answer is definitely four year old energy. Or simplify our life-style, but that’s just crazy talk.

He never wants to leave, and I always can only leave him with hugs, kisses, and the promise that I will see him tomorrow. If I had it my way, we’d stay up until midnight and watch Ponyo for the hundredth time and snuggle under our favorite blankies. But I’m pretty sure that children need consistency, and that’s a battle I will continue to fight, as I rather enjoy being in the “pretty good” mother category and am not looking to have my status downgraded any time soon.

Some nights it really sucks, though.

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Old Photos

I’ve been watching a show lately that made me pull out some old photographs and go through them. I found this one- it looks like from the time when we lived on a Native reservation in Canada.

It made me smile, because it seems like Dylan is the same size as I was then. I don’t remember this specifically- but I do remember chasing the baby chicks on my grandmother’s property.

I wonder what he’ll remember when he gets older?

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